Friday, August 14, 2009

Four-by-Fore (Play!) Friday

In light of the recent episodes of Jon & Kate Plus 8, I think it's crucial that we all do something as often as possible to show our husbands that it's not all about the kids all the time. Over and over, Jon and Kate both keep saying that the kids are the most important - but I wonder if they would be in a different marital position right now if they had made each other the most important instead - or God most important for that matter! We're all busy, I get that, but I want to take the opportunity on Fridays to present you with four suggestions for making your hubby feel like your #1 man again. Pick one, or two (or all four if you're feeling ambitious!) and try to work it in some time during the week. We need to start thinking of foreplay as a marital muscle that needs to be exercised.

Which one(s) will you pick this week?

  • Next time you're at the grocery store, pick up a few things that you know he loves. Pack him a lunch and add a short note along the lines of "a few of your favorite things because you're MY favorite thing."

  • Go for a walk with the kids and hold his hand. Even better, if your kids are old enough, let them ride their bikes ahead of you so you can have an adult conversation while holding his hand. Don't let it be about finances or the details of life either. Try this question: "If you knew you wouldn't fail, what kinds of things would you do with the rest of your life." Remember when we used to have conversations like that back in the dating days?!

  • Do a chore that he normally does (take out the garbage, bathe the kids) and tell him that you wanted to give him a break for working hard all day.

  • If you're a stay at home mom, thank your husband (look him in the eye so he knows that you're genuinely thankful) for going to work and being the financial provider for the family.

Some of these are basic, but it never hurts to be reminded to do something special, no matter how big or small a gesture, for your husband - who needs to be more important to you than your kids.